tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post8982382696636430696..comments2024-03-22T03:20:39.114+00:00Comments on New Mum Online: Man I Feel Like a WomanNew Mum Onlinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-66016078742261978832013-11-16T12:06:23.464+00:002013-11-16T12:06:23.464+00:00But Hiri, I was actually at Blogfest, at the sessi...But Hiri, I was actually at Blogfest, at the session. I was the person who shouted about boobs from the balcony because the session made me feel so cut of from my femininity and was so disassociated from the act of mothering, they even call it "caring" instead, so that it really can be 50:50 with a man. Next time Aaron wants his Mum at 3 a.m. because he's got a temperature, I'll say sorry Aaron I have done my share of the "caring" this week.....#not.<br />So yes, having paid £95 to attend blogfest there was no stumbling into all of this but I have certainly been stumbling around ever since LOLNew Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-30461514636430747092013-11-16T11:48:21.385+00:002013-11-16T11:48:21.385+00:00They tend to be quite good at that. They're so...They tend to be quite good at that. They're sort of the Militant Tendency of Feminism, more concerned with their own ideological purity than actually making the lives of real women better. And they've had a lot more experience arguing their corner than someone who casually stumbles into them so are pretty good at twisting things: there's a whole argument cluster about the patriarchy which is internally consistent with an answer to everything - just like creationism, marxism, fascism or any other extreme ism. It's really not worth getting bothered about though as they're so seriously loopy they're never going to get wide acceptance. Like you I stumbled into it myself a while back so I kind of watch it with some casual curiosity.<br /><br />LLHiri Nurmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00936143119575381383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-4003297754388062152013-11-16T10:55:32.276+00:002013-11-16T10:55:32.276+00:00and now, because they DID the rattling, rather tha...and now, because they DID the rattling, rather than GET rattled, they all sound rather serene and composed, so now the crowd has swung once again, to cheering them on for their eloquence and composure, even though I KNOW for a fact they went into that session with an agenda. I don't know if you saw my original post-fest ranty post, which I think is now being waved like a flag to say "look at that crazy woman over there who hates us". < Those are my words not anyone's but you get my drift.<br />I am NOT a hatey type person and I hate that this week has made me look like one, hence the picture I chose for this post (a statue I photographed that lives on my matelpiece).<br />Now I know what Politicians go through when one week they are hated and the next week applauded. It's not the way I want to live my life - I know what I stand for, and don't want to stand against anyone.<br />The latest post from them, is claiming some of us want to Trademark Mummy Blogging.... Wow, so we had two camps, which became 3 when I heard of Maternal Feminists and now they're trying to make it 4? Gets more and more divisive by the day!<br />:-(New Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-17283462819565323932013-11-16T10:47:13.181+00:002013-11-16T10:47:13.181+00:00Well it's easy to miss them, they're a ver...Well it's easy to miss them, they're a very small, authoritarian and unrepresentative bunch well outside the mainstream of feminism (and I identify as a feminist btw) who've managed to p*** off virtually every other group outside their magic circle. Usually you can ignore them because they sit in their own little ghetto and seethe to themselves, but occasionally they get some attention (like this blogfest thing) and end up damaging the name of feminism in general and the cause of those of us who want an equal and fair society for both women and men.Hiri Nurmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00936143119575381383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-63835676503353313102013-11-15T23:24:24.443+00:002013-11-15T23:24:24.443+00:00Thank you for your comment - I am learning a lot t...Thank you for your comment - I am learning a lot this week and not all of it good. I got to 40 without knowing any of this stuff, but sadly did not make it to 41. Clearly I led a sheltered life and didn't encounter any feminists. I know there are some great ones, just like there's some great cakes, but just like cake, it can all be a bit much and make you sick.<br />Liska xNew Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1824547228125638907.post-75791796570134347352013-11-15T23:19:36.091+00:002013-11-15T23:19:36.091+00:00Just ignore the radfems, they hate everyone who do...Just ignore the radfems, they hate everyone who doesn't agree with them. It's more of a religion than anything - a comfort blanket for a certain type of bitter woman who can blame any of life's disappointments on the patriarchy. Like all cults its explains everything and if you try to argue then you'll be dismissed as a funfem, or a handmaiden, or you're mansplaining, or you've internalized your oppression, been gaslighted, or numerous other weasel words. <br /><br />Being accused of being rude to them is pretty much par for the course (but they're allowed to be as rude as they like to you because they're oppressed by you - if you're a man obviously, but if you're a woman because as you disagree with them you're a woman supporting the patriarchy and so acting as proxy for male privilege - or some such self-justifying nonsense). <br /><br />A good diagnostic is to find out what the person you're talking to thinks of transgender people. If they're basically intolerant (and usually it's an obsession bordering on hatred - google Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists) then you are not talking to someone you'd really want to associate with.<br /><br />It's also worth checking any links they post against the O2 mobile internet filter at http://urlchecker.o2.co.uk/urlcheck.aspx. You'll be amazed how many articles they link to are classified by O2 as hate speech.<br /><br />LLHiri Nurmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00936143119575381383noreply@blogger.com