Why did you have children? How have they changed your life?

Hi

I write this post for

Due to their Do Something Yummy campaign http://www.yummymummy.org.uk/
brought to my attention by the awareness Nickie is raising by hosting these weekly writing prompts  here here and here.

Nickie gave 3 writing prompts:

1. Personal post.  Why did you have children?  How have they changed your life?
2. Yummy post. 
3. Creative writing.

I chose the 1st one.

Over to my post.  But after writing that, I am now scratching my grey matter to come up with a fund raising idea.  I may just have thought of one.  I will let it simmer a while.

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I started trying for a baby on Good Friday 2009.  April.

I had wanted to since 2007 (and before) but was far far far too scared of labour.  Proper scared.

Anyway, along comes the beginning of 2009 and I say to hubby I am too overweight to get pregnant, "give me a few weeks I'll do a detox" - I even wrote posts about trying to lose weight here, but proceeded not to lose any.  I didn't admit on that blog that my goal for weight loss was trying to start a family.  April came, and I was still the same size.

So roll on Good Friday and we are in Ikea, and I am looking at scented candles.  A heavily pregnant lady walked passed and I looked at her. Her radiance connected with me on a really really deep level and I bawled like a baby, right there in Ikea.

The minute we got home, we made love on the sofa.

I got pregnant, from that 1st attempt, but, a few week later, we had implantation failure..... most wouldn't know and would think they were late, and that it was a heavier than normal period. I am normally neither and am consistent, for like 25 years +.

Anyway, we tried every month from April till September and the only thing that got me through it was Net Mums.

The longer time went on, the more I wanted my baby. It was all consuming. I read about it, talked about it, didn't think about anything else.

And for me, having been a workaholic, I needed it to be like that. I would have taken it for granted if it came too soon. I needed to need, I needed to wait, I needed to nurture that space inside me, and I needed to long... long for my creation.

I wrote the below poem on Friday 18th September 2009. When I wrote it, I was pregnant, and did not know...... as I was in the famous 2 weeks waiting..... My last cycle started 31st August 2009.

(I retain all creative rights and copyright - ha ha ha).

I am a spiritual lady who so dearly wants a baby
I would oh so like the bump I'm impatient, got the hump
two weeks worth of waiting is getting really grating
But I do really love this thread Gets it all out of my head
A little girl or a boy Will be my pride and joy
Oh Lord when will it be that my beloved child I will see
I love you. I want you.

I posted it on netmums at the time. Thankfully I just found it (by wading through the forum which was quite time consuming).

I also started this blog before I was pregnant. A bit ambitious I know.

This was my 1st post, here on this blog.

Bye for now, Liska and my pride and joy Aaron xxx

In Love With Lego Duplo

Hi

Some of you will know that I got Aaron Lego Duplo for Christmas.  It took me a long time in Toys R Us to land on Lego Duplo because I was torn by Mega Bloks. Yep it was Lego Duplo versus Mega Bloks.

But there really is no comparison.  My Sister In Law got Aaron mega blox and we got him Lego Duplo.  I tried the Mega Blox twice and didn't like it, so it stays in the box.  The colours, the feel of the plastic, the way they stick together...... nothing compares to LEGO.  They really are the market leader for a reason.  I just love the FEEL of the lego and the vibrant colours.  And as any good toy manufacturer know, Mum needs to like the toys too!

Anyway, when presented with the lego Aaron didn't show that much interest and the only thing he liked doing was emptying the box (we got the version where it comes in a big plastic tub).  If Mummy made something, even if it took an hour, his favourite thing to do, was break it bit by bit, or just quickly throw it across the room, to shatter everywhere.  He has learned DESTRUCT, but he is yet to learn BUILD, even though he has been building Ikea beakers since last Summer.  Anyway, I had varying reactions to his breaking of my master creations, and it was like he enjoyed watching the many reactions, seeing that they were sometimes despair, sometimes disappointment, sometimes teary, and sometimes dumbstruck, depending on the effort we'd both put in.... LOL.

One thing I discovered just after Xmas was that colour blocking them, before putting them in the box is highly highly therapeutic.  Especially if you feel like your life has been chaotic since baby came along.  Colour blocking gives you a few minutes of ORDER and it feels like sanity - if you relate to what I am saying, and have some lego to hand, don't delay do it now:

The full set, colour blocked

The set that we have from Santa to Aaron

Colour blocked complete with "man"

The ultimate in order - colour blocked in box!

So, now, on to some of MY creations (given that Aaron can't build yet).

front

side

back (this creation uses every piece including the car!)

The underneath to show the "foundation"

As you can see, I am loving Lego, but this blog, which I found today, is in a whole other league.  The standard of the photography is awesome.  If you are a lego fan, you must take a look.

Bye for now, Liska & Aaron.

xxx

Not About Winnie

Hi

Well blogging mums quite often talk about P**
And it is usually their children's p** as in the case of Multiple Mummy this week, whose post I read, and sympathised.

Anyway, I am doing the unusual thing of blogging about MY p**

So it started Sunday night with the big D which I will call Delhi belly....... Unusually this went on all day Monday and explosively all of Monday night.

Tuesday I felt normal, so with my ex-colleague, had a slap up lunch... Only trouble was, I did the same thing Wednesday (hubby took me for lunch for my birthday) and the same thing Thursday - again with 2 ex-colleague....

So 3 days of slap up lunches, yet no movements, and yesterday the size 16 jeans were STRANGLING my waist and probably damaging my insides....

I thought, only I, could have 2 days of D, and get tight jeans afterwards.

Anyway last night, the *coughs* movement occurred and today I feel a lot better.

But it reminded me about my Yoga days (I taught for 6 years) and we often used to have Kriyas about "elimination". It is a really important part of the body's functioning.

So I say to the Mumentum ladies, make sure that you are eliminating correctly - weight loss doesn't occur otherwise, but bloating surely does!

I really need to get healthy now in these coming weeks... I wouldn't normally write this sort of post but when I saw Kerry's I thought "why not!"

Bye for now, Liska xxx